A soberversary is the anniversary of the last day that you used a substance. Yes, I make up words. I’m a writer. I totally do that. Anyway, I have officially hit 4 years sober from alcohol and I couldn’t be happier than I am to celebrate that with you!
This is a big deal y’all. This is the longest I’ve gone in my entire life booze free. Sure, I’ve had many attempts in the past. Prior to this most recent sober journey I think the longest I lasted without a drink was 18 months, which I still think was impressive at the time. It’s really hard for me to re visit the last time I chose to quit drinking 4 years ago. This is hard for me to re visist because I was a completely different person back then.
I started drinking alcohol at the age of 12. I continued to binge drink through the years until I was 32. 20 years of my life I wasted, thinking “Maybe today I’ll be a normal drinker.”
Fortunately for me, I never became that “normal drinker.” Instead I accepted my fate as an alcoholic, and grew to embrace my new identity.
For more on my journey check out my newly released, first ever podcast interview with Recovery Rockstars.
What I want to do today is go ahead and make a ridiculously long list of all the things that changed in my life in the last 4 years. In the last 4 years, I have had accomplishments, improved relationships, and my health and wellness have completely changed, and I want to share some of these things with you today.
So, without further ado, here are the many ways my life has changed since finding lasting sobriety from alcohol 4 years ago:
- My marriage has never been stronger. I finally allowed my husband to be my rock, I finally let myself be vulnerable. Our marriage has transformed into loving each other in a Christ like, grace filled way.
- I’ve earned my trust from my kids. Kids naturally trust their parents until they give them a reason not to. By choosing sobriety they no longer see the Jeckyl and Hyde mommy they once knew.
- I’ve become fun! I don’t take myself nearly as serious as I probably should….and I could really give a shit less what others think of that.
- I’ve embraced my creative nature.
- I became a published writer.
- I’ve designed a social media platform, where it’s ok to embrace the sometimes messy, sometimes intense, often hilarious lifestyle of the sober and not so famous.
- I was able to grieve when life threw me that lesson.
- I’ve found legit courage….and released liquid courage.
- I’ve gotten help for my anxiety and depression.
- I’ve laid old wounds to rest, and forgiven those who have violated me.
- I’ve become hell bent on breaking the silence and stigma surrounding mental illness.
- I’ve begun a career in crisis intervention, aiding those who are suicidal, homicidal, or psychotic.
- I’ve completed my MA Degree in Human Services Counseling.
- I’ve become licensed by the state as a LCDC-I (Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor Intern).
- I’ve started to master the art of mindfulness.
- I’ve started the practice of Yoga.
- I’ve begun to give into healthy impulses and have released my controlling tendencies.
- I wake up grateful. I go to bed grateful.
- I have finally accepted my struggle with PTSD and allowed the VA to treat it.
- I have more energy.
- I’m way more productive. I have had zero hangovers.
- I have no shame. Like zero.
- I’m less angry.
- I am well enough to love others well. For more on this see There’s No Danger in Loving Strangers
- I’ve discovered a whole new area of recovery – my physical health recovery.
- I finally treat my body like the temple it was designed to be.
- I’ve discovered the physical strength of my body.
- I’ve found the mind-body connection I had always been lacking. For more on this, see The Twelve Steps of Nutrition and Exercise Recovery
- I eat well. Like, freakishly well.
- I crave veggies and fruit.
- I drink nearly my weight in water.
- I’ve discovered a love for LaCroix water. Seriously, so basic but so good.
- I drop the f bomb. And I’m not f*cking sorry.
- I absolutely love out door adventures. I hunt. I fish. I hike.
- I get high….on travel.
- I hug…a lot.
- I’ve discovered the power of authenticity. What you see is what you get people. Ain’t nobody got time for fake.
- I’ve learned to rock out in the school pickup line. I spend most of my life there, might as well make it worthwhile.
- I’ve had the balls to challenge my kids to set high standards for themselves, and they’ve come through with higher confidence levels.
- I’ve mastered the art of drinking black coffee.
So there you have it. That’s pretty much everything I’ve accomplished since giving up booze 4 years ago and committing to a sober life. What about you? I want to know what you’ve accomplished. Share below or on Instagram. I’d love to see your list.
Thanks everyone for your unconditional love and support through the years!
Stay sober my friends!